Change the way you think, and you can change the way you live.
REBT is applicable to a wide variety of issues and challenges, many of which I have listed below.
I work with adults (18 and over), individuals, couples, and groups of all backgrounds, races, ethnicities, religions, sexualities, and genders.
I am an LGBTQ Allied counselor, and I truly enjoy working with this community.
I have experience in leading grief and bereavement group counseling.
I also offer a discount for students and veterans.
Anger Management, Anxiety Counseling, Chronic Pain, Coping Skills, Couples Counseling, Grief Counseling, Life Transitions, Marriage Counseling, Self-Acceptance, Self-Direction, Self-Esteem, and Stress Management.
Anger Management Counseling
Anger is an unhealthy negative emotion that universally impacts us. While the many faces of anger may surprise you, one aspect is abundantly clear: when anger is not effectively managed, it can result in permanent damage to your interpersonal relationships, your career, your ability to function day-to-day, and even your physical health. Most people have experienced anger at some point, as well as engaged in angry behaviors, such as yelling, physical altercations, or unhelpfully avoiding an important event, simply because they are afraid that it will trigger their anger. Through rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), I can help you to understand the relationship between your beliefs, your unhealthy angry emotions, and your unhelpful angry behaviors. Together, we will also examine the root of your anger to better understand any additional unhealthy negative emotions that your anger may be correlated with such as anxiety, depression, jealousy, envy, guilt, and shame. I will facilitate you with accepting yourself as a fallible human being, as well as teach you specific strategies to help you learn to relax and remain calm when you begin to feel angry, as well as identify, challenge, and change your thoughts BEFORE they result in full-blown anger. Anger exists on a spectrum, and together we can help you to transition your unhealthy anger and rage into much healthier annoyance and frustration. The person who is most negatively impacted and punished by your anger is YOU. I can help you learn how to control your anger before it controls you and your life!
Anxiety never changes an outcome nor does not give you more control over your future. Anxiety does not resolve the challenges that await you, rather it robs you of your peace in the present. In order to treat anxiety, I will help you to understand the relationship between your anxiety and your beliefs. By identifying, disputing, and replacing specific beliefs pertaining to your anxiety with effective new beliefs, we can transform your unhealthy anxiety into healthier alternative emotions, which will psychologically release you from your anxious thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Using compassion-focused and goal-oriented rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy techniques (MBCT), I can show you how and why anxiety is an unhealthy and unhelpful emotion, and that you are capable of learning both to sit with it, channel it into something creative and constructive, and ultimately conquer it!
Chronic Pain Counseling & Chronic Illness Counseling
For those battling any chronic pain and illness, the psychological and emotional symptoms are often more debilitating than the physical pain itself. When working your chronic pain and illness, I help you to examine the relationship between how you think about your pain and illness, and how you feel and behave as a consequence of your thinking. While chronic pain and illness may feel entirely outside of your control, there is an insurmountable amount of power within your perspective. Through my solution-focused and goal-oriented approach to counseling, we can help you to set realistic goals regarding your physical and emotional discomfort, and together we can aspire to improve your quality of life by targeting the cognitive, emotive, and behavioral aspects that are within our control. Rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), and mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) can all be incredibly beneficial in providing support, offering excellent coping skills, and facilitating you with reframing the way you think about your chronic pain and illness to help you find purpose in your pain.
Couples Counseling & Marriage Counseling
I facilitate couples with learning that every individual is responsible for our own emotional and behavioral reactions; consequently, it is helpful to avoid blaming one another for the way that each of you feel and behave within the relationship. I also encourage finding an emotional solution prior to a practical one. This means that before we try to practically resolve a problem, we focus on evaluating the way each partner more broadly thinks about problems, which helps us to uncover any underlying unhealthy belief patterns, as well as puts both partners in a stronger position to effectively and respectfully cope with and address future conflict. Additionally, I can help each of you to think more rationally about your partner, your relationship, and your perspective on love. In other words, to truly understand the reality of love, it is helpful to surrender your rigid demands and unrealistic expectations about love; this creates an excellent foundation for fostering growth, healing, and change in your relationship. Furthermore, I will encourage each of you to recognize, resolve, and replace your own irrational beliefs about unmet desires, because the most efficient way to facilitate change in our partner is to firstly work towards changing ourselves.
Grief can be physically and emotionally debilitating and to experience highly intense feelings of sadness, concern, and remorse is part of a healthy grief and bereavement process. One could even argue that anxiety and depression, which are considered to be unhealthy emotions in most circumstances, are still part of a normative pattern of grief; however, just because something is normal, does not mean it is helpful for you. In grief counseling, it is important to convey respect for my clients’ beliefs about your loss, and also validate your emotional state, while compassionately and softly bringing to awareness how the intensity of your current feelings and behaviors is or is not helping you to effectively function within your new normal as you attempt to simultaneously live and grieve. I help you to discover that, even in the face of adversity and tragedy, you still have choices, and together we can transform your prolonged and complicated grief into a healthier sadness, while learning how to redefine life after loss, as well as how to honor the legacy of your loved one throughout each day. I want my clients to truly understand that when your pain and grief become too burdensome to carry alone, I am here to carry it with you.
Life Transitions Counseling
Life transitions are about learning to acknowledge adversities that are outside of your control, adjusting to new life stages, surrendering expectations and demands for how you think things must, should, ought, have, and need to be, and ultimately accepting reality. Acceptance does not equate to approval; rather, it is about adopting a healthy perspective regarding the new chapter of your life that you are entering, which will help both of us to set realistic therapeutic goals as we work together. Life transitions encompass a wide array of situations, and the challenges that I most often work with are aging, anxiety, chronic pain, depression, divorce, grief, financial difficulties, illness, infertility, infidelity, job loss, LGBTQ-related concerns, marriage and relationship issues, pregnancy, and situational stress. In spite of the world’s uncertainties, the one aspect of your life you can be certain of is that you possess the power to choose your attitude in the face of adversity. When you cannot change your physical circumstances, REBT helps you to change yourself by adapting to your situation, learning to effectively use highly efficient coping skills, and ultimately transforming your perspective. This may be challenging and frustrating at first, but once change is truly achieved, it can result in a deep and profound shift of your philosophical worldview, leading to a much more rational, mindful, and psychologically enlightened life!
Self-Acceptance Counseling & Self-Esteem Counseling
One of the most powerful decisions we can make is to unconditionally accept ourselves. Unconditional self-acceptance is more powerful than self-esteem, because self-esteem is conditional. We are taught to develop high self-esteem because we do something that by most accounts is globally rated as “good”; however, we can strive to practice unconditional self-acceptance at all times, especially when we have made a mistake. Through practicing unconditional self-acceptance, we will alleviate a tremendous amount of our psychological and emotional stress, as well as persistent unhelpful feelings of anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, jealousy, envy, and anger. By understanding how to unconditionally accept ourselves, we also develop more empathy for others, as well as for the adversities that exist within our imperfect world, helping us to experience less judgement of ourself and others, more forgiveness, and a deeper comprehension of human stories and struggles that are both similar and dissimilar to our own.
Many people find themselves seeking direction in their lives in various ways from figuring out what you want to study in college, to considering a career change, and searching for a new job. Another way of looking for self-direction is examining dating and relationship patterns that you wish to change, deciding what your overarching goals are for the future, or searching for deeper meaning and purpose in a world that is filled with an abundance of adversities and uncertainties. While there are no magic solutions for all of the inevitable challenges that will arise in our lifetime, rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) can provide you with powerful ideas and strategies for helping you to change the way that you think about metaphysical concepts such as uncertainty, purpose, and self-direction. During our work together, we will address a number of emotionally distressing concerns, such as overcoming your past and unfortunate traumas, as well as self-induced emotional upset as a consequence of your cognitive patterns. We will examine areas of your life pertaining to need for approval, fear of failure, self-blame, self-discipline, and accepting and coping with that which you cannot change. Together, I will help you to develop a powerful philosophy for living that will empower you by learning (and truly believing) that you control your emotional destiny; therefore, you have the power to rewrite your personal history. It is never too late to CHOOSE your direction, and as your counselor, it will be a privilege to accompany you on your journey to emotional wellness!
Take the first steps towards improving your mental health by reaching out to Keys to Counseling. Call me at (813) 397-8099 to schedule an appointment today. I look forward to working in collaboration with you as your counselor.
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$100.00 (60-minute session)
$80.00 (60-minute session, discounted rate for students and veterans)
*I offer individuals a 90-minute session for the first appointment at my 60-minute rate!
$150.00 per couple (90-minute session)
*I offer couples 2-hour sessions for the first two appointments at my 90-minute rate.
$50 per individual (90-minute session)
*Please contact me if you are interested in attending a Grief Group
*I will try to accommodate you with morning, evening, and weekend appointments, as best as I can: If you do not see a time that works for you, please do not hesitate to call and ask!
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*While I do not currently accept insurance, for interested clients, I am able to provide documentation to submit to your insurance company regarding possible "out-of-network" benefit coverage.
“All conditioned things are impermanent – when one sees this with wisdom, one turns away from suffering.”